Monday, December 22, 2008

Gaslighting

Have you ever heard of the term gaslighting?

Most people have not, its not something we come into contact with a whole lot in our lives.

From Wikipedia:

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse. It involves an increasing frequency of systematically withholding factual information from, and/or providing false information to the subject, having the gradual effect of making the victim anxious, confused, and less able to trust his or her own memory and perception. A variation of gaslighting, used as a form of harassment, is to subtly alter aspects of a victim's environment, thereby upsetting his or her peace of mind, sense of security, etc.

This happened a lot at the institute. I suspect that it is quite a common tactic used by cult leaders like those at the Spiritual Rights Foundation.

Spiritual Rights? Spiritual Freedom? Spiritual Awareness?

Not in my book!

We have been decieved, we were hypnotized without our consent or awareness and had our perceptions altered. Then when the facts presented them before us, it was easier for our leaders to deny it, tell us our percpetions were wrong, there was a "being" in our space, etc, etc, etc.

I once sat in a reading where we were reading a man who almost passed out durring church service. Immediately I was aware that he was lightheaded, experiencing vertigo and a whole host of other things which are indicative of ones blood sugars being low. When we finished the reading, I as the man, when was the last time he had eaten. He told me that the last thing he had to eat was nearly 24 hour prior to coming to church (a bagel and cream cheese I believe!) When I mentioned this to someone else they just scoffed at my statement and told me that I was not reading properly. Then he just walked away.

I WAS INFURIATED!

How could this reader be so blind, the facts where right there in front of us but he chose to accept a "spiritual" reason over common sense.

Common sense was not that common in the insitute, actually it was not appreciated there. Especially by Lewis and Susan.

For those of you who want to learn more about Gaslighting, I highly recomend that you watch the movie Gaslight. It is a classic, but a wonderful movie. Very errie though.

2 comments:

  1. Bill Duby, founder of the Spiritual Rights Foundation, undertook several tactics to keep his followers confused in doubt of their own memories and distrustful of their own good judgement.

    Bill would frequently resort to sophmoric, juvenile behavior liberally peppered with racial ephithets and sexual behavior.

    If Bill were to see you with your (female) spouse, he'd sneak up behind her, and while honking her boobs in your full view, coo in her ear "Would you rather suck my dick or his stinky dick?" Your spouse would always answer that she'd prefer Bill to you while you stood there mouth agape. He would later call your spouse a "whore" who only wanted sperm and money and you a "loser" for not providing enough of either.

    Frequently, Bill would espouse: "God doesn't let the left hand know what the right hand is doing". Obviously, that sentiment sets up deception, obfuscation and concelement.

    He would often tell one spouse one thing, then tell the other spouse a contradictory or confusing instruction that would never fail to result in conflict and rancor. His successors have carried on this evil tradition in honor of his memory.

    We were also fed "filtered" information. This information may be an opinion of a person or event. The information would change from day to day, depending on the mood of the day or the requirements of the leadership. The result of the constantly changing information was that we became completely dependent on the leadershiop for all but the most basic decisions. Of course, no information source but the leadership would be considered as valid, exacerbating and continuing the gaslighting.

    One young man was faced with a dilemma: his new girlfriend was pregnant. This young man decided that a quickly arranged wedding was in order, but he needed advice to be sure. His best first step was to ask his parents. However, his parents (long time SRF members) declined to provide it for some reason and surredered their parental responsibility and privledge to the counsel of the SRF president.

    This president is a 5th grade dropout (seriously) has little experience with the outside world and had been called "brain damaged" by Bill Duby himself. Well, she did spend many years as a drug addict, so I guess that is a great qualification to counsel the life of another. I hope they didn't share a needle.

    Anyway, a marriage was recommended and the union was blessed by the wise and enlightened president of SRF. I'm not sure what substance provided the enlightenment but the marriage was hastily conducted with the intent of providing the child a father and to instill a sense of responsibility upon this young man.

    However, there was one problem: the baby was NOT his! The young man's now-wife admitted after the wedding that he baby in her womb belonged to another and that it was impossible for the now-husband to have conceived the child.

    Obviously, the wise and enlighted persident of SRF neglected to ask the first thing the rest of us would: "So, how in the hell do you know this goddamn kid belongs to YOU?" Followed by: "Look kid, no offense but you have got to run a DNA test. We will help you and her through the pregnancy, but if she squirts out a kid who look more like your third cousin twice removed than YOU, we are cutting her loose."

    I mean, would any parent, much less any MATURE ADULT want a young man to make a mistake that will haunt him for a lifetime? And would you want your son saddled with a lifelong responsibility while letting the real perpetrator (or in this case, penetrator) get off (so to speak) scot free?

    Well this young man's parents are more than capable of acting in a reasonable and sensible manner - if they were not members of the SRF cult. However, years of gaslighting, years of being set up to distrust your own memory, thoughts, good common sense and natural initiative left them and their son utterly vulnerable and submissive to the whims of one who has little interest in their best interest.

    There is one person happy with that advice: the real father. He's either breathing a sigh of relief or more likely, laughing his ass off.

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  2. I guess gaslighting goes both ways. I've been told the spouse of the young man I wrote about has put the child up for adoption. It's gone.

    So now, that young man has nothing to show for his honorable intent. He does have a wife, though. But was that worth it?

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